Find forgiveness and patience for your partner and communicate them about why you may think things are not working out - perhaps your partner is particularly stressed or upset about something, thus leading to a negative behaviour. If, however, you think divorce is the only option, move on to the next step.
Some people are reluctant to get their family involved; in this case, you can speak to an independent marriage counsellor, although they are detached from the issue.
The husband’s divorce pronouncement can be verbal or written, but it must be done once. The wife is able to keep the dowry, or mahr, with her. If, however, the wife initiates the divorce, she can either return her dowry to end the marriage, or petition a judge for divorce. She must show proof that her husband has not fulfilled his responsibilities. A separate legal process of divorce may also be required, in which attending hearings and obtaining a legal decree of divorce are required.
During the ‘iddah, the couple is free to resume their relationship, ending the divorce process. The wife has the right to remain in the family home, and the husband is responsible for her wellbeing.
The main concern must be that the child is cared for by a responsible parent who can meet the needs of the child.
It is discouraged to have a yo-yo relationship, nor engage in blackmail.
