In addition, receiving a hickey can be somewhat painful, which is a mood killer for some people. However, some people enjoy this aspect of the experience.
“Hickey” isn’t the sexiest word to whisper into someone’s ear, so if you’ve avoided asking for permission until now, you should mention that you’d like to leave a mark on your partner’s skin and see how they respond.
If you know your partner would be extremely embarrassed at having a visible hickey, don’t just put it in the middle of the throat where anyone can see, and ask them where the most comfortable location is. The side or the back of the neck is a good bet if your partner has long hair, or you could go to the collarbones, closer to the shoulder, so the skin can be covered by a regular crew-neck T-shirt.
Keep your teeth out of the way. You don’t want them digging painfully into your partner’s skin. Teeth can be used lightly to intensify the pleasure of the experience if that is what your partner desires. Break up the sucking. If 30 solid seconds of hickey-making strikes you as too weird, try 10 seconds, some kissing, then another 10 seconds in the same spot, and so on. Control the amount of spit in your mouth. You don’t want to be leaving a creepy drip of slobber on your partner’s neck as you give a hickey, so try to swallow back any excess.
Stage make up is extra thick and heavy, so you may resort to that if you’re trying to conceal a real whopper.
Other options for covering a neck hickey include wearing a turtleneck (again, when weather conditions allow) or wearing your hair down, if it’s long enough.
All of these methods, and more, are outlined in the article How to Remove a Hickey.
